Say that you are a woman looking for a woman. The join form asks, and the profile should say it again in a sentence, because a photo does not always tell people, and you should not have to rely on them guessing. "I am a woman in my forties, in Brighton, looking to meet a woman" is a complete opening. Lesbian dating is that search on its own. If you also want to meet men, bisexual dating is the other page.
Write what you want in the same plain way anyone else would. A relationship, company, or something lighter are different hopes. No strings, or friends with benefits is the lighter one, if that is the sentence. If you are separated, divorced, or widowed, you can say so without the history. Those guides are separated, after a divorce, and after being widowed.
Use a recent photo of your face. Leave your surname, your workplace, and anyone else's name off the profile. You do not owe a stranger a more explicit picture, a phone number, or a move to another app because you are two women and the conversation feels safe. The careful order is the same: a few messages, a video call, then a public place. Meeting someone safely is that plan.
Ignore the message that is only about your body, or that asks you to prove you are really looking for women. You do not have to answer it to be polite. A woman who has read the profile will refer to something you wrote. What gets a reply is that standard, from the other side of the inbox.
Only Dating is free to join and free to message. We will never ask you for a fee. If someone does, or they cannot meet and then need money, stop and read the romance-scam guide.
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